Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on May 18th, 2012
Do you remember when you and your partner were getting to know each other?
I bet that, when you think back to those early times of your love, you remember what you did together: perhaps you both liked the same music and went to concerts together; or you liked the theater, and went to many plays; [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on Dec 27th, 2011
In-love feelings are fueled by the new, the different and the exotic in a situation that is felt to be unpredictable and surprising.
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 22nd, 2011
The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.
As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree [...]
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 8th, 2011
Almost 50% of affairs for women occur with co-workers and more than 60% of affairs for men begin in the office. This is a clear indication that it is people in our daily lives that ignite passion and create situations where lust can be experienced, even if people do not realize what is happening until [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Dec 5th, 2011
Brain Chemistry and Affairs
Is there a correlation between the levels of some brain chemicals and vulnerability to extra marital infidelity? Research in this area indicates that, while physical tendencies may be changed by our ability to think and reach logical decisions, our brain chemistry can influence our behaviors and choices. Of these chemicals, three in [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Dec 4th, 2011
Emotional disconnection and Infidelity
As we saw in the preceding blog on the psychological traits that make people more vulnerable to extra marital infidelity, it is the emotionally disconnection from their romantic partners – whether because one or both are insecurely attached, or because external circumstances weakened their emotional connection with one another – that makes [...]
Posted in intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Nov 22nd, 2011
This is a departure from a more traditional profile of the cheater as typically male, middle age, sex-starved, looking for excitement and adventure and needing to be made to feel young and attractive again, preferably by a much younger woman than his marital partner.
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, stress management on Nov 20th, 2011
The most important gift to couples is that this situation allows time for reflecting and thinking about how they got to this point.
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on Nov 16th, 2011
What are the external factors that are contributing to increased rates of interpersonal conflicts for couples?
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, stress management on Oct 13th, 2011
So the system that works under ordinary circumstances ceases to provide the help needed under extraordinary ones.
