Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on Dec 27th, 2011
In-love feelings are fueled by the new, the different and the exotic in a situation that is felt to be unpredictable and surprising.
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 22nd, 2011
The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.
As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree [...]
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 19th, 2011
What Couples Can Do To Get Back On Track
It is important to remember that in most cases affairs are symptoms of something deeper that is going on in intimate relationships, of which couples may not have been aware. And here is where I can see the silver lining. The affair is such a shocking event [...]
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 18th, 2011
We all know the evils of infidelity. In previous blogs I wrote about them, citing statistics, characteristics of who is most likely to cheat, and what can be done to address these issues.
Here I want to approach this subject from a different perspective: infidelity as an alarm system about the state of the relationship, and [...]
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 8th, 2011
Almost 50% of affairs for women occur with co-workers and more than 60% of affairs for men begin in the office. This is a clear indication that it is people in our daily lives that ignite passion and create situations where lust can be experienced, even if people do not realize what is happening until [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Dec 5th, 2011
Brain Chemistry and Affairs
Is there a correlation between the levels of some brain chemicals and vulnerability to extra marital infidelity? Research in this area indicates that, while physical tendencies may be changed by our ability to think and reach logical decisions, our brain chemistry can influence our behaviors and choices. Of these chemicals, three in [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Dec 4th, 2011
Emotional disconnection and Infidelity
As we saw in the preceding blog on the psychological traits that make people more vulnerable to extra marital infidelity, it is the emotionally disconnection from their romantic partners – whether because one or both are insecurely attached, or because external circumstances weakened their emotional connection with one another – that makes [...]
Posted in love relationship on Dec 2nd, 2011
It is normal to be overwhelmed and unsure of what to do, so don’t think you are unique or that there is something wrong with you. If this is your first holiday with your new blended family, expect challenges. Also, don’t think your situation is unique, as more than 50% of American families are re-married [...]
Posted in love relationship on Nov 30th, 2011
Posted in intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Nov 22nd, 2011
This is a departure from a more traditional profile of the cheater as typically male, middle age, sex-starved, looking for excitement and adventure and needing to be made to feel young and attractive again, preferably by a much younger woman than his marital partner.
