Posted in love relationship on Sep 30th, 2012
Today in the paper there was an article about Tom Cruise and Kate Holmes getting divorced. This news, in and by itself, wouldn’t have been very surprising, given the high rate of divorce in Hollywood. What was unusual about it, however, were its circumstances. The reporter speculated that the reason for this divorce was possibly [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair, stress management on Jul 11th, 2012
Loss of trust in a love relationship can come about as a result of infidelity, a partner lying about money, one partner failing to be a loyal ally when needed, and many other ways. Regardless of the cause, when couples are faced with the dilemma of rebuilding trust after a betrayal, there are four strategies [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, stress management on Jul 11th, 2012
When couples living together break up, sometimes no one moves out. Why? The answer is usually money. Some people who can’t save the relationship still live together out of financial necessity, or because they want to save money in the short-term so they can buy out their partner.
How can two people live in this [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication, intimacy, love relationship on May 25th, 2012
Some people feel very strongly that a person cannot be both a friend and a lover, as one will undermine the other. It’s one or the other, these people say, and cite the importance of mystery and the excitement of the new and the exotic as powerful forces that fuel sexual passion and physical attraction [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on May 18th, 2012
Do you remember when you and your partner were getting to know each other?
I bet that, when you think back to those early times of your love, you remember what you did together: perhaps you both liked the same music and went to concerts together; or you liked the theater, and went to many plays; [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on Dec 27th, 2011
In-love feelings are fueled by the new, the different and the exotic in a situation that is felt to be unpredictable and surprising.
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 22nd, 2011
The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.
As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree [...]
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 19th, 2011
What Couples Can Do To Get Back On Track
It is important to remember that in most cases affairs are symptoms of something deeper that is going on in intimate relationships, of which couples may not have been aware. And here is where I can see the silver lining. The affair is such a shocking event [...]
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 18th, 2011
We all know the evils of infidelity. In previous blogs I wrote about them, citing statistics, characteristics of who is most likely to cheat, and what can be done to address these issues.
Here I want to approach this subject from a different perspective: infidelity as an alarm system about the state of the relationship, and [...]
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 8th, 2011
Almost 50% of affairs for women occur with co-workers and more than 60% of affairs for men begin in the office. This is a clear indication that it is people in our daily lives that ignite passion and create situations where lust can be experienced, even if people do not realize what is happening until [...]
