Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship on Dec 2nd, 2010
“I am not in love with my partner any more, and I don’t know what to do to get it back. Is it possible?
I hear this question quite often in my work as a psychotherapist and couple counselor. Couples are upset, confused, sad and disappointed that those loving feelings for each other [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Nov 26th, 2010
We all compete in sports, jobs, school, and any other area of our lives. There are competitions, however, that touch us at a deep gut level. These are competitions with a known rival – an opponent against whom one competes over and over again. In these cases, a set of psychological [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication, intimacy on Nov 12th, 2010
Most of us enjoy being with others rather than being alone, as being with someone we like is an enjoyable experience. We like to share our reactions to situations and events that amaze us, like going to the Grand Canyon, for instance. As we stare and are awestruck by its beauty and majesty, we like [...]
Posted in brain and mind on Nov 4th, 2010
Most of us remember dreaming, but few of us may remember full dreams, or even bother writing them down. At first sight they seem bizarre, confusing, nonsensical and irrational. We may tend to dismiss them as they don’t fit our idea of a narrative with a logical development that has a beginning, a middle and [...]
Posted in brain and mind, stress management on Oct 12th, 2010
Imagine having a big presentation in front of a whole hall full of people you don’t know and who intimidate you. You are restless, agitated. Your palms are sweaty and clammy. Hour heart beats much faster than normal. You feel sick to your stomach. You are afraid you are going to pass out and everybody, [...]
Posted in communication, stress management on Oct 7th, 2010
Arizona has a very large elderly population, so issues about the end of life are often raised by people here, possibly more than in other parts of the country with younger populations. Patients themselves and their families are continuously searching for ways of making the last days of life as comfortable and serene as possible.
In [...]
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Sep 30th, 2010
The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.
As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree [...]
Posted in brain and mind, stress management on Sep 23rd, 2010
A lot of new studies have been published recently about the value of exercise for physical and mental health.
We had known for some time about the value of endorphins, hormone-like substances that are released in the body when we exercise. Endorphins are natural opiates that give us a feeling of euphoria and well being. This [...]
Posted in brain and mind, stress management on Aug 31st, 2010
The ability to touch people around us in deep, meaningful and long lasting ways is a gift we all have. We need to remind ourselves of the powers and strengths of human connections and use them wherever we see an opportunity. We also need to be mindful of the fact that, in the same way [...]
Posted in brain and mind on Aug 25th, 2010
In the previous blog post we discussed how the dysfunctionality of our relationships with our surrogate parents – politicians and government representatives and other people in leadership and power positions – have taken away the feelings of protection, security and safety we used to feel. Now not only we don’t trust them any longer, but [...]
