Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 22nd, 2011
The acronym DINS (Double Income No Sex) was coined a few years ago in discussions about the evolution of marriage in this country. In research carried out at Georgia State University, 16% of married couples reported they had sex with each other less than once a month.
As a psychotherapist working with couples, I agree [...]
Posted in marital affair on Dec 21st, 2011
In therapy, the cheated partner finds a place where he or she can talk about feelings of hurt, disbelief, anger, disappointment and fear.
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 19th, 2011
What Couples Can Do To Get Back On Track
It is important to remember that in most cases affairs are symptoms of something deeper that is going on in intimate relationships, of which couples may not have been aware. And here is where I can see the silver lining. The affair is such a shocking event [...]
Posted in love relationship, marital affair on Dec 18th, 2011
We all know the evils of infidelity. In previous blogs I wrote about them, citing statistics, characteristics of who is most likely to cheat, and what can be done to address these issues.
Here I want to approach this subject from a different perspective: infidelity as an alarm system about the state of the relationship, and [...]
Posted in Uncategorized on Dec 14th, 2011
Connections help make life less scary and overwhelming for all of us, starting from infancy and continuing throughout life.
Posted in communication on Dec 11th, 2011
Boundaries are affected by individuals’ life experiences, as well as by different cultures.
Posted in intimacy, love relationship on Dec 8th, 2011
Almost 50% of affairs for women occur with co-workers and more than 60% of affairs for men begin in the office. This is a clear indication that it is people in our daily lives that ignite passion and create situations where lust can be experienced, even if people do not realize what is happening until [...]
Posted in marital affair on Dec 7th, 2011
Only 35% of couples with marital infidelity stay together. Hurt, humiliation, disappointment are very powerful feelings that often lead to blaming and attacking. Depression, anxiety and fear can occur following the betrayal. Trust is gone. There is a deep feeling of loneliness and shame, and concern about the future. Partners often don’t know how to [...]
Posted in brain and mind, communication on Dec 6th, 2011
Internet affairs have become a new way of reaching out to people outside one’s marriage for companionship, love and sex. In this article we discuss the differences between these affairs and real time affairs.
Internet infidelity is an issue of endemic proportions not only for the sheer number of people involved in them, but also because [...]
Posted in communication, intimacy, love relationship, marital affair on Dec 5th, 2011
Brain Chemistry and Affairs
Is there a correlation between the levels of some brain chemicals and vulnerability to extra marital infidelity? Research in this area indicates that, while physical tendencies may be changed by our ability to think and reach logical decisions, our brain chemistry can influence our behaviors and choices. Of these chemicals, three in [...]
